Narcissism is a difficult trait for someone to have to live with. A person who has narcissism often puts themselves and their own wants and needs first. They may be kind to others when it benefits them, but at the end of the day, they will always think about their own interests first.
Narcissists don’t always react well to a spouse who asks for a divorce. If they have not previously been abusive, they could begin participating in actions that border abuse or become abusive, which is something that the person seeking a divorce needs to be prepared for.
How can a narcissist become abusive during divorce?
Narcissists want things done their way, and they will take actions to make sure they “win” during the divorce. They may lie, gaslight you or even threaten you in certain circumstances.
If you feel threatened or in danger, then you need to know that you may be able to get a protective order. You should report any dangerous or threatening situations to your attorney and the police, so you can keep a good record of events for the judge that will preside over your case as well.
Not all narcissists turn to physical abuse, but watch out for emotional abuse
People with narcissism have different levels of the narcissistic trait, so they won’t necessarily be physically or emotionally abusive just because you want a divorce. However, you do need to be prepared for the potential for emotional abuse even if your spouse isn’t a violent person.
Love bombing you to get you to stay, manipulating your emotions to get you to settle or even trying to use your children against you are all possible scenarios you could run into. If these things begin to happen, then it is in your best interests to take steps toward getting a restraining or protective order, documenting the behaviors and doing what you have to do to protect yourself.
Divorces are hard for anyone, but in these kinds of scenarios, know that you may need help to protect yourself and get you through the most difficult aspects of the process.